Newsweek article: The Religious Case for Gay Marriage

Lisa Miller references two points which actually make the case against gay marriage. First, much of marriage in the Bible was polygamous. True. And if gay marriage is legal, plural marriage (both polygamy and polygyny) should likewise be legal, for I can't see any logical reason why gay marriage is better for society than plural marriage. The cries of discrimination against gays should be just as loud for discrimination against fundamentalist Mormons and Muslims. Where is the equal treatment in the ban against plural marriage? The fight for "equal" rights to marriage should be all or nothing. Otherwise, fundamentalist Mormons, Muslims, and other groups are not free to practice their religion to its fullest. That is religious discrimination.

Second, David did love Jonathan. But David also loved Bathsheba. Most people, if they are honest with themselves, will admit to intense feelings toward their same sex. Just look at the history books and even today at the number of people who have had relationships with both genders - it is not that unusual. From ancient Greeks to medieval Arabs to the romantic friendships of the 19th century to movie stars to "down-low" culture, people living otherwise heterosexual lives have felt and acted on same-sex attraction. Freud postulated most people were bisexual, and the Kinsey scale further underscores this. Now if we all acted on all our feelings, the world would be one giant orgy, and as much as I, in the past, thought that would be a positive thing, I now realize that society needs structure to survive.

The gay rights movement is really an attempt to create a minority, a victimized class, and equating sexual preference with skin color is deceitful. Society needs norms and standards in order to function and thrive. Either we have a standard of marriage or we let anything go. What is best for society should be the deciding factor.